Why adults date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Extramarital affairs can be filled with troubles, cause sorrow, and other problems. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, finances, age difference, religious upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating married women.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am sure mostly though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your family or anybody else? You will need to lessen the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest cluster, very big really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a frequent groung I fear. One or the other, generally the male is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a male I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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